Basically there are only two forces in the world that source all our actions: love or fear. Many make the mistake of thinking the opposite of love is hate. Perhaps in a very limited sense that could be true. However, fear is what fuels hate. Unfortunately, fear is a mechanism employed extensively to control people, to “keep them in line,” so to speak. We MUST stop falling into that trap. It’s not just politicians and the media who use fear in this way – it’s epidemic globally and is used by religions, governments, schools, parents, peers, marital partners, etc.
So how do we avoid being controlled by fear, especially in areas in which we’re the most vulnerable? The best way I’ve found to release fear that has surfaced is deep breathing. What also works for me is to send love to the places inside where fear has been activated. Of course, the linchpin for these practices is awareness, something many of us avoid. Why? Because we’ve spent a lot of time and energy dodging our fear. We have perfected “stuffing” it deep into our unconscious minds for years. The problem is it doesn’t STAY “stuffed” – ever notice that? We’re going along in life just fine when seemingly out of nowhere our fear is “triggered” by what someone says or does and we have an intense emotional reaction that’s usually WAY out of proportion.
Therefore, it’s crucial for our emotional well-being to allow the fear to surface, be felt and released. At first that can be difficult as our self-protective process will still “kick in” and it can take awhile for us to realize we no longer need it.
I’d like to leave you with a quote from Carl Jung who was a pioneer in the area of unconscious emotions, the havoc they wreak in our lives, and the importance of identifying and releasing them. “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” In my experience, making our own darkness conscious is not only liberating, but brings us peace.